Anchors of hope, Encouragement

Empty Nest Prep Begins at Birth. Have you taken the key step? (It’s never too late!)

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30 Seconds for Hope:

Empty nest? The thought can make you cringe. Or cry. You look at your baby and think, “No, don’t ever fly away!” Yet kids do grow up. That’s a given. So today–right now–is your opportunity to cultivate a different mindset that will pay big benefits at the time of empty nest. It becomes easier to let go later if Continue reading “Empty Nest Prep Begins at Birth. Have you taken the key step? (It’s never too late!)”

Encouragement

The “Change Your Attitude” Time Bomb (vs. Change Your Perspective)

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Have you puzzled over Suzie’s protest? Or Johnny’s pout? And then wondered, “Whoa! Where did that attitude come from?”

Have you reflexively commanded, “Change your attitude”? But what does that even mean?

I was slow to realize that children can’t just magically poof themselves into Continue reading “The “Change Your Attitude” Time Bomb (vs. Change Your Perspective)”

Encouragement, Help from Mentor Moms

Five Priceless Gems from My Mentor Moms: #1 – A Lesson from the Nursery

Number 1-heart30 Seconds for Hope: Everyone is significant. Even though children don’t contribute much to society (except for contributing messes to clean!), every child has intrinsic value. As I watched my first mentor create enjoyable activities Continue reading “Five Priceless Gems from My Mentor Moms: #1 – A Lesson from the Nursery”

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Five Priceless Gems from My Mentor Moms: #2 – Two Words

Number 2-heart30 Seconds for Hope: Do you ever wonder if you are following the right path on how to raise a child? Do you feel mystified by all the conflicting advice? For every question you’ve ever asked, it seems a multitude of answers abound (which can be so confusing). Yet all over the world Continue reading “Five Priceless Gems from My Mentor Moms: #2 – Two Words”

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Five Priceless Gems from My Mentor Moms: #3 – Stop and Stoop

Number 3-heart30 Seconds for Hope: Do your children talk almost non-stop? Do your ears get tired? The prattle of children can feel like background noise that’s always there (and readily tuned out). Yet we know that kids express things they consider valuable, so how can we hear their heart? A friend gave me two keys Continue reading “Five Priceless Gems from My Mentor Moms: #3 – Stop and Stoop”

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Five Priceless Gems from My Mentor Moms: #4 – Don’t Be Shocked by Normal

Number 4-heart30 Seconds for Hope: I have learned so much from moms who mentored me. One of them, Mardean Martindale, alerted me that children cycle through various stages. It’s a given. If we’re not aware of stages, Continue reading “Five Priceless Gems from My Mentor Moms: #4 – Don’t Be Shocked by Normal”

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Five Priceless Gems from My Mentor Moms: #5 – The “Troubles Exchange”

Number 5-heart30 Seconds for Hope: Are you in the middle of some kid-induced troubles? Are you hoping those troubles will end soon? Well, I learned from a mentor mom that the end may not be what you think. I gained a realistic calibration from Lois Allen, and, ironically, her reality check bolstered my hopes by Continue reading “Five Priceless Gems from My Mentor Moms: #5 – The “Troubles Exchange””

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The “Good Parent” Controversy – Influence vs. Determinism

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30 Seconds for Hope: Here’s a puzzle…sometimes bad parents end up with good children (what?)—and, on the other hand, some good parents end up with bad children (plus lots of blame from society). Yet often books on parenting and conversations on child-raising, and even mommy blogs, imply that good parenting skills will produce good children. What gives? Frequently commentary on parenting springs from Continue reading “The “Good Parent” Controversy – Influence vs. Determinism”

Anchors of hope, Encouragement

Z is for Zapping the Zebra: The Sting of Comparison (and the Zap Vest)

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30 Seconds for Hope – Children get compared, and usually some child comes up short. Slower development. Not as smart. Behaviorally challenged. Have you ever suffered the sting of someone unfavorably comparing your zebra child with the horse herd? Yet differences aren’t wrong. They’re just… different. To be protected from those comparison zaps, Continue reading “Z is for Zapping the Zebra: The Sting of Comparison (and the Zap Vest)”

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Dear Mom of the Meltdown Kid, We’re Not Mad at You!

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30 Seconds for Hope – When your child throws a fit in public, you can easily imagine the whole world is blaming you. Isn’t that right, moms? You might wonder if the people around you are irritated, just wishing you would get that child under control. Well, take heart! Most of us watching that tantrum Continue reading “Dear Mom of the Meltdown Kid, We’re Not Mad at You!”